For freshmen, the start of the IU academic year is the best of times and the worst of times:
The Best of Times—a new and exciting world; my first long-term foray into geographic independence from my nuclear family, to try out my wings on my own and prove my competence as an adult (to myself and them…and others).
The Worst of Times—never have I experienced as much dislocation from my environment (house, town, school building) as moving to IU-Bloomington, shifting all of my network of relationships (phone and texting just isn’t the same as being there), and confronted with a new degree of academic accountability (this ain’t high school!). I have fears as I face so many things for the first time (I truly am a novice at this. Will I look silly stumbling around looking for classrooms or places to process ID’s, the bursar office, and on and on…?).
One consolation: most every upper classmen ahead of me has faced these joys and fears…and they made it. So can I. How can I help make this transition more successful for myself?
Admit to myself my fears. Realize that these feelings are real, but not restricting. I also have courage and desire…desire to make good things happen. This kind of positive outlook can carry me a long way.
Asking for advice or help is not weakness. It is piecing together a new puzzle. The advice I seek is not just information (e.g., classroom location), but also heart talk. This is where pastoral ministers here at St. Paul are ready and willing to listen. Talk through your concerns and fears; talk through your struggles with habits or addictions. Don’t let them determine you; grab ahold of your life.
Know my center. To know one’s center involves reflective prayer. Let me look at my personal prayer life. I might need to put it in gear! Prayer is a powerful interior strength. Try it and see. Learning/Knowing my center helps me to negotiate situations that I will encounter: (a) sorting out the millions of requests, invitations, and opportunities so that I keep proper balance with my priority of education; (b) how to handle myself in party situations that provide alcohol abundantly (and who knows whatever else); lest I fail to read signals of being lured into positions where I am compromised and something happens TO me without my consent, etc.; (c) reminding myself that this first semester I will be experiencing a lot of “failures” from choices, but that does not have to ruin everything; and (d) my time at IU is more than an academic exercise; it is building personhood. What kind of person do I want to become? What kind of values will I develop into habits and define my character? How does my Catholic faith help to solidify my integrity? If not, have I failed to discover the heart of this faith…and judge it too superficially?
Be wise! Be attentive! Not everything is as friendly at it might appear, or as threatening as it might appear.
Be joyful! Be adventuresome! Discover how your giftedness is given for your growth and the benefit of the world and its legacy. What are you going to contribute to it? You probably won’t know…until years later, but the work of building personhood now will manifest itself day-by-day and will eventually become your history and the world’s history. Make it the best possible. Spirituality is essential for a successful person.



